For the next week, I will be away at music camp. Right after returning, my family will leave for a bike trip. This means that I may not post another post until possibly the 27th.
At this camp, I hope that I will be able to improve more as a viola player. I will be rooming with one of my best friends, so I'm praying that we grow closer as friends and don't become enemies after rooming for five nights. Another thing I would like is to somewhat improve my social ability. I've been told by one person that I have the social ability of a sixth grader. Everyone else I've told about that agrees with her. It may be somewhat related to how I was homeschooled from Kintergarten to third grade (not trying to offend anyone else who's been homeschooled, just talking about my experience) and then was an outcast in school from fourth to fifth grade. As a result of going to a small, 240 person school, I was finally able to create good friends and for the first time socially "grow." You know, it could possibly be a good thing to have a supposid "underdeveloped" ability in social matters. I don't know. I've learned a couple things while talking to someone about socail matters:
If you think someone's ignoring you, it doesn't give you the right to ignore them. They might actually think that you're trying to ignore them in the first place.
View people as a prioity to your time, while in a group don't charge down ahead as fast as you can so that you don't "waste" your own time talking to people.
These are a couple things that sometimes I tend to do without really realizing it. I really love others pointing out my faults to me, because how can I fix them without first knowing what they are? I may at first feel slightly depressed after learning more negative aspects about myself, but after recovering the knowledge does help me realize how to really be a better Christian. Continuing to read the Bible and treat it as a mirror helps too. I'm glad that God gave us relationships with others and His Word. Otherwise, I think life would be basically boring. God is good all the time, and all the time God is good.
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Bria,
"I've been told by one person that I have the social ability of a sixth grader."
That's an out-and-out lie. I don't know who you are talking to about this, but don't worry about your social skills. I have been homeschooled all my life, and I'm in a better position socially than many of my friends because I know how to be myself.
It has been my experience that whenever someone criticizes the "social skills" of another, they are really applying peer pressure. People believe that "social skills" are actually the ability to fit in, to be just another face in the crowd, and to avoid excellence and greatness in favor of mediocrity. They don't know what social skills really are, instead condemning you because you choose to stay a head and shoulders above the rest, who supposedly have good "social abilities." They want you to learn how to fit in, to conform; they want to see you sacrifice your individuality, and they attempt to force you into their way of life by insisting that there is something wrong with you.
In order to gain the "social skills" that people are referring to, you would first have to sacrifice your willingness to change and your humility. Again, the world's view of social skills is that they simply consist of the ability to be just like everyone else. Therefore, your humility and intelligence would have to go, since they are not common and thus they are poor social skills.
You are intelligent, Godly, humble, compassionate, and you have an excellent perception of issues--heart issues-- that most other kids are too self-absorbed to even contemplate. Are your social skills poor? Though I don't know you personally, I am positively sure that the qualities that I just named are qualities that give you good social abilities. You prefer to be an individual; the people who claim that you have poor social abilities are people who would also advocate the standard for "normal" which I believe you posted about recently. If you don't conform to their standards for normal, then they think you have poor social skills; reality, however, proves them wrong.
Don't worry about your social skills. You're different, just like I'm different, and just like every other self-respecting person is different. If people think you have poor social abilities, you should always question their mindset, and what "abilities" they are referring to. That could make you feel a little better about their criticism; since you are so accepting of criticism, it is probably best to make sure the criticism is correct. That way, you won't fix a fault that didn't really exist, except in the minds of your critics. Like I have said before, "don't change, sister."
Be blessed!
Neo
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